Yeah, weeds are pretty much the worst

I hate working in the yard. I highly doubt I’m alone in this stance, but I’ve always found weeding tedious and ineffective. No matter how much work you do, it takes very little time for it all to be undone.

Yesterday I was tearing out the weeds in my front yard when Kelli came over. She pitched in to help a bit, but it was a question she asked that stuck with me. She wanted to know where the weeds come from, since we’re ripping out the roots and obviously don’t plant them.

It’s a good question. I’m sure garden experts would know the science behind weeds and why they exist, but it made me wonder. I don’t know why weeds return after we go to such great lengths to remove them; all I know is they do. We work so hard to make a beautiful garden, but without constant maintenance the weeds soon overwhelm and destroy.

Of course this shifted in my mind to thinking about other aspects of life where we see the same thing (apparently weeding is a very existential time for me). We’ve been going through some relationship curriculum along with another small group with friends, so naturally I started thinking about relationships. It’s amazing how much you can plant exclusively good things into a relationship and still find weeds sprouting up.

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Friends the Facebook Way

There’s a strange process we go through as we get older. It’s really something that has become more common in recent generations, as many of our grandparents and great-grandparents never really left home.

We all grow up, but the idea of lifelong friends is becoming more rare than before. I know if my mom were to mention some of her best friends, most would be people she has known for decades, if not her entire life. The generations before us did not have the internet to create social networking and expand their horizons. A large percentage remained in one general location as they grew from children to adults, raising their own kids close to where they grew up. Continue reading